Nonviolent Communication

September 11, 2019 12:57 PM - by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD

NVC teaches you how to speak your truth or share your perspective in a way that is most likely to lead to harmony than conflict. And it teaches you how to be in the face of uncomfortable statements — like blame, judgment, criticism, or a verbal attack — and listen for the values and needs behind the statement. As a result you are less defensive, are able to stand in a more compassionate place, and are much more likely to defuse any potential conflict.

The Nonviolent Communication model is the symbiotic integration of four main components:

1. Consciousness - A set of principles and perspectives that support living a life of compassion, collaboration, courage, and authenticity both within ourselves and in our interactions with family, friends, coworkers, or anyone else with whom we might interact;
2. Language - Understanding how our words, as well as the words of others contribute to either connection or distance, helping or hurting, compromise or conquest in an interaction or situation;
3. Communication - Knowing how to ask for what we want without threatening, demanding or coercing, how to hear others (even in the course of a disagreement) without absorbing self-criticism or blame, and how to move toward mutually beneficial and positive outcomes for all parties involved in an interaction or situation;
4. Means of Influence - Learning how to share our power with others instead of using our power over others, in order to facilitate an environment where all parties feel equally honored, valued, respected, and safe.

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posted by aniola (1 comment total)

I love this book and I think about it all the time. There are a lot of angry people in my life and I have a quick temper. Ever since I read it, I try to pause and talk to myself before taking action while angry and ask myself what is it I’m wanting and not getting, that’s driving me to anger. And like 75% of the time it’s not something the person I’m mad at can give me.
posted by sallybrown at 1:58 PM on September 12, 2019